Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that make us miserable more often than they make us happy, relationships that we know in our hearts are not right.
The question is What would cause someone to end a relationship and to what extent can one forgive and forget or quit the relationship?
Here are the most common reasons people fall out of love, and ways to stop them getting in the way of a happy ending – or any ending at all.
Mr Adeniyi Salami says:
If that relationship add no value to your life.. ( i mean worsening your life more than it was before getting into it) or if it will lead you to death. #quititnow
Mr Sunday Ejegi :
Well, not much information was given by the writer why he/she wants to discontinue the relationship, this makes it some what difficult to profer solution to it. However, there are bases in which relationships are built on, which ever it is the end point is TRUST. Yes trust, when either party starts to loose trust in the relationship it begins to drive the person to want to quit. So when you no longer trust the other person for who or what he or she use to stand for, that the relationship was built on then you begin to want to ask out. In all, if that relationship ever meant it's worth, then both sides must learn to forgive and forget. Relationship is like two rever flowing from two different directions with their different current, were they meet is usually turbulent and rough but after a while flowing together the current gradually dies down and it becomes very calm. That is to say if a relationship ever means anything to you there must be rough times, your ability to be able to contain the storm will depend on the value you place on it. So my conclusion is patients endurance and forgiveness are keys to a successful relationship.
Eniola Oise
If we keep changing from one person to the other looking for the right person, we might end up finding or not finding one. Everything in life is not exactly white or black, we give chance for a mixture of both - grey.
Now, she's the one that's in the relationship and she knows exactly what she's going through.( Ẹ́ni mẹta ó kín pàdánù irọ ) meaning, If you're lying to others and they know not, you know the truth yourself.
If the friction is coming from her, she should curb it. And see if there'll be any positive improvement going forward.
If it's the man that's making the relationship hell for her, let her sit him down and they talk about it. Really talk about it if there's still a smidgen of love left between them.
I've found out that communication in any relationship cannot be over emphasised. Send him a text message. It is easier like that. Pour out your grievances. Be polite, please. Tell him how his behaviour is affecting you. He'll either respond with a text message of his own, a call or a face to face conversation.
A lot of issues are thrashed when people talk. Talking about things helps. He'll make amends and you'll live happily ever after.
If he's still making you cry after that, please leave.
Abuse of any kind- physical, emotional, sexual- is a deal breaker for me. There's nothing to talk about if that's what is causing the tears.
But if there's no abuse, talk about your issues and if there's no improvement, sis please leave to live.
Mariah Beyioku
When a relationship has nothing to offer. When you luckily discovered it's not what you wish for before tying the knot. when goals and priority clashes,when the partner abuses in any form and when the love you feel in a relationship miraculous disappeared.
Demola Olusanya
Depending on the circumstances. A relationship is generally give and take although it could depend on the expectation of each other.
Debby Yemisi
If there's no love, trust and if the relationship is full of deceits as we all know love is give and take but if it's ones sided, i would advise to quit.
Bala Baba
From the comments above I can see people becoming one sided judge. No one is asking what led her to think of ending the relationship. Even if she had informed us, we can only advise base on what she says not on the basic of us hearing from both parties. We shouldn't forget what you give is what you receive most times.
Conclusively,no one knows your pain and what you are going through.The most important thing to remember is to prioritize your own health , happiness and wellbeing. This is tough, but consider these things and keep them in mind before making any decision, your self happiness and comfort,your wellbeing, mental health, and future.
The question is What would cause someone to end a relationship and to what extent can one forgive and forget or quit the relationship?
Mr Adeniyi Salami says:
If that relationship add no value to your life.. ( i mean worsening your life more than it was before getting into it) or if it will lead you to death. #quititnow
Mr Sunday Ejegi :
Well, not much information was given by the writer why he/she wants to discontinue the relationship, this makes it some what difficult to profer solution to it. However, there are bases in which relationships are built on, which ever it is the end point is TRUST. Yes trust, when either party starts to loose trust in the relationship it begins to drive the person to want to quit. So when you no longer trust the other person for who or what he or she use to stand for, that the relationship was built on then you begin to want to ask out. In all, if that relationship ever meant it's worth, then both sides must learn to forgive and forget. Relationship is like two rever flowing from two different directions with their different current, were they meet is usually turbulent and rough but after a while flowing together the current gradually dies down and it becomes very calm. That is to say if a relationship ever means anything to you there must be rough times, your ability to be able to contain the storm will depend on the value you place on it. So my conclusion is patients endurance and forgiveness are keys to a successful relationship.
Eniola Oise
If we keep changing from one person to the other looking for the right person, we might end up finding or not finding one. Everything in life is not exactly white or black, we give chance for a mixture of both - grey.
Now, she's the one that's in the relationship and she knows exactly what she's going through.( Ẹ́ni mẹta ó kín pàdánù irọ ) meaning, If you're lying to others and they know not, you know the truth yourself.
If the friction is coming from her, she should curb it. And see if there'll be any positive improvement going forward.
If it's the man that's making the relationship hell for her, let her sit him down and they talk about it. Really talk about it if there's still a smidgen of love left between them.
I've found out that communication in any relationship cannot be over emphasised. Send him a text message. It is easier like that. Pour out your grievances. Be polite, please. Tell him how his behaviour is affecting you. He'll either respond with a text message of his own, a call or a face to face conversation.
A lot of issues are thrashed when people talk. Talking about things helps. He'll make amends and you'll live happily ever after.
If he's still making you cry after that, please leave.
Abuse of any kind- physical, emotional, sexual- is a deal breaker for me. There's nothing to talk about if that's what is causing the tears.
But if there's no abuse, talk about your issues and if there's no improvement, sis please leave to live.
Mariah Beyioku
When a relationship has nothing to offer. When you luckily discovered it's not what you wish for before tying the knot. when goals and priority clashes,when the partner abuses in any form and when the love you feel in a relationship miraculous disappeared.
Demola Olusanya
Depending on the circumstances. A relationship is generally give and take although it could depend on the expectation of each other.
Debby Yemisi
If there's no love, trust and if the relationship is full of deceits as we all know love is give and take but if it's ones sided, i would advise to quit.
Bala Baba
From the comments above I can see people becoming one sided judge. No one is asking what led her to think of ending the relationship. Even if she had informed us, we can only advise base on what she says not on the basic of us hearing from both parties. We shouldn't forget what you give is what you receive most times.
Conclusively,no one knows your pain and what you are going through.The most important thing to remember is to prioritize your own health , happiness and wellbeing. This is tough, but consider these things and keep them in mind before making any decision, your self happiness and comfort,your wellbeing, mental health, and future.
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